"Bonds That Make Us Free" Great Book!

"Bonds That Make Us Free" by C. Terry Warner is an excellent read.  This book helps you realize where you're going wrong with communicating with others.  It is a very humbling book and at times hard to read if you're stubborn like me and tend to think you're never wrong.  But it really did change my outlook and it showed me all of the times that I looked for things to be wrong with someone, making it impossible for them to meet or exceed my expectations.  Here's a great quote from the book so that you have an idea of what it's about...

“Except in a very few matches, usually with world-class performers, there is a point in every match (and in some cases it's right at the beginning) when the loser decides he's going to lose. And after that, everything he does will be aimed at providing an explanations of why he will have lost. He may throw himself at the ball (so he will be able to say he's done his best against a superior opponent). He may dispute calls (so he will be able to say he's been robbed). He may swear at himself and throw his racket (so he can say it was apparent all along he wasn't in top form). His energies go not into winning but into producing an explanation, an excuse, a justification for losing.”

It pointed out a lot of my flaws and weaknesses, in a way that wasn't discouraging but change-motivating.  If you're getting to the point that I reach every so often where you feel like you're missing something or need to change somehow,read this book.