When The Gospel Teachings Became Delicious to Me

I was raised in a very religious household.  I went to church every Sunday, served in numerous church callings, and often shared my love for my religion with others.  But as many young people do, I had to venture out into the world and develop my own testimony and knowledge of myself, life, and my religion.  I ended up taking a path filled with great things such as self-help books, seminars, inspirational music, Ted talks, and more.  My bookshelf became full of anxiety hack books, books about understanding yourself and others, personality charts and ways to improve communication.  I love learning and so I loved all of my books.  I also found a great love for music.  Hearing songs with beautiful and breathtaking melodies that are so perfect, reading lyrics that are so inspirational and profound, that was one of my first loves.  At different places I've worked I got into different kinds of books.  While working for one company I became very interested in financial books and I dug into financial wisdom from the best and brightest, Robert Kiyosaki, Dave Ramsey, etc.  I wanted to learn about managing risk and stocks and mutual funds.  The next company I worked at I read all about leaders and how to be a great leader and how to understand people who are different from you so that you can be an effective team (I just watched Oblivion).  I had learned so much from these books and talks and I am so grateful for them and how they gotten me this far.  I've relied on them heavily and made them my go-to for inspiration, knowledge, and wisdom.

        In the past I've been wishy washy about where I stand and have had some times when I just wasn't in the mood to be religious, for lack of a better phrase.  That was the truth.  My weakness was laziness.  I knew I believed everything that my religion taught and I knew that I wanted to become like God who sees others as precious children of God and lives to serve others.  That, to me, is the perfect religion.  But I often fell (and obviously still fall) short of who I needed to be.  Some days I didn't go to church and I didn't really think much of it.  I sometimes viewed my callings as a hassle and felt like people were too outgoing for me and it just made me uncomfortable.  I also felt like I didn't belong in the cookie cutter mold that I saw others fall so perfectly into.  So that's where I was.  Then something funny happened.

        My dad and I went on a walk one day and he asked me how I was doing with the church and how I was feeling.  I told him that I had a hard time turning to God for answers, peace, and inspiration unless I've exhausted all of my other options.  I told him that I've grown so used to just figuring it out on my own and doing research and finding the answers I need that I don't often think to pray or fast for help.  What he said was very interesting.  He didn't lecture me about being worldly and materialistic about my books and talks and music.  He didn't tell me that to be the person I need to be I need to pick religion and drop that other stuff.  He said that it was great that I found something that helped me for so long.  There are so many good things in the world that are very good and helpful and created to help us.  But the world needs people who have both.  The world needs people who are book smart and spiritually wise.  Both are important and both will help you to be who you need to be.   That really stuck with me.  Not long after that I got pregnant with my daughter.

        All through my pregnancy I read pregnancy book after pregnancy book, blog posts and youtube videos about how to ease anxiety and how to get through labor and how to prepare for postpartum and how to stay sane when you're home all day with the baby.  I listened to my favorite music to calm me and to get me by.  Well, I had my baby and everything was great.   The labor went fine, I recovered quickly, I went back to work, I was able to breastfeed, things were going all right.  Then, around three months after I had my baby, I started exhibiting signs of postpartum OCD.  I had intrusive thoughts enter my mind that I couldn't get rid of and they were very troublesome and gave me a lot of anxiety.  I was constantly in fear and nervous to be alone.  It was an awful feeling.  My doctor recommended that we move in with my parents for a couple of weeks until my medication started working for the support.  I was embarrassed, ashamed, and felt like a failure or a freak.

I went to see a counselor and spoke with a few doctors, including my primary care doctor and they were very helpful.  They gave me very logical and practical tips to deal with the OCD and to manage my anxiety.  As I did in most stressful situations, I turned to music, youtube videos, and self help guides to feel better.  I found a little bit of comfort but they mostly just made me more anxious.  The thoughts wouldn't go away and I didn't know what to do.  Desperate, I started to pray and read my scriptures.  When I read my scriptures, the thoughts went away, or at least were easily manageable.  I felt like I knew myself and I could think clearly as I read.  I began to read more and pray more and as I did, I felt comfort and love.  I started to read a book about becoming spiritually centered and it has been like a wonderful dessert to me.  I've been listening to conference talk after conference talk, devouring every word that is said, even if it doesn't directly pertain to my current predicament.

      I'm so interested in the stories in the scriptures and understanding what happened.  I'm finding role models and hope from the amazing prophets and apostles who I read about.   I'm learning from the book about being spiritually centered to do things out of love for Heavenly Father instead of for my own glory.  I thought I knew myself so well and that I could control everything in me, but I've had to humble myself and realize that God knows everything and has a plan for everything, and my plan isn't always his plan.  He wants me to go through things that I would never wish upon anyone because they will make me stronger.  I am not the reason for my successes or my wisdom or my knowledge.  Heavenly Father has placed those things in my life to help me in the way that I needed to be helped at the time, but I had nothing to do with it.  I've had to completely trust in Him and have faith that everything will be okay if I keep working and trying to progress.  It's a scary feeling sometimes, because when you get to trust yourself so much and think the you can just handle anything, you get thrown curveballs and it rocks your world.

I am so grateful for the opportunity I've been given to see things differently, to see the gospel, and the doctrine, and the teachings as delicious treats that I can devour at any time.  I love that there are conference talks on youtube and so many other resources at my fingertips.  Those other things will always be important to me, and I do believe they are super helpful in managing life situations and becoming a better person.  But, in my recent experience, nothing, NOTHING, has made me feel as loved, as comforted, and as strong as I feel when I'm learning more about the Savior, the church, and the doctrine.

Since I've been doing this, I've started to see others differently.  I'm starting to see others who used to overwhelm me with their outgoing-ness as kind and sweet people and I appreciate them more.  I'm starting to see my friends and family as my tribe in a way I never have before.  My heart is so full from people close to me who have been there for me, listened to me, and cried with me.  Everything is changing.  I wanted to share this experience specifically for people who are like me.  I've been on both sides, I've doubted, I've slacked off, I've sprinted in the opposite direction for years and it turned out okay.  But I had no idea, no idea what I was missing.

Baby Product Likes and Dislikes

Hi friends!  I just recently had my first baby and like any other first time mom, I was a little over zealous about having all the good stuff.  I did tons of research and watched videos of what other people did.  That mentality worked out in my favor in some respects, but I also bought stuff I didn't use or really like.  So I thought I'd share what worked for me and what didn't, in case it helps anyone out there!  Keep in mind this was specific to me and my needs so take it all with a grain of salt.  Let's go!




Likes:

1.  The Summer Infant Soothe and Vibe Portable Soother

               I have to start with my favorite product in my house. The Summer Infant Soothe and Vibe Portable Soother.  This is a sound machine that you can either strap or clip on a crib/bassinet/car seat or basically anything you can hook it to and it plays either white noise, lullabies, rain sounds, or a heartbeat.  It also vibrates.  I got this for my newborn because she has a really hard time getting her gas out and I heard that vibrating beds help to settle their stomachs.  The sound machine didn't work for our baby in that, the vibration actually scared her so we don't use that function.  But she loved the heartbeat and rain sounds when she was trying to sleep.  That gradually changed and now she loves the lullabies and this thing has saved us when we're trying to get her to sleep.  I love that we can take it with us on longer car rides she feels comfortable enough to fall asleep.  I definitely recommend!




2.    Grovia cloth wipes

I love using cloth wipes because I keep them in my warmer so they're nice and warm for baby's bum and save you SO much money!  I have two brands of cloth wipes and this brand is definitely my favorite.  They're soft but are thick so they get everything.





3.   Munchkin Wipe Warmer

I really like this wipe warmer.  It's simple and easy to clean because it opens up and there aren't any extra parts or anything.  It holds a lot of cloth wipes and there is even a little night light on it.






4.   Bambino Mio Diaper Pail

I love this diaper pail because it keeps the smells in and is small and compact so that you can fit it under the sink or something if you're in a small space.  It also can't fit a whole ton of diapers in there so it'll remind you to change it (or in my case with cloth diapers - wash the diapers before they start to smell super bad).




5.  MAM Pacifiers

We got a ton of the gumdrop pacifiers but in our case with our baby, she ended up liking these MAM pacifiers from Walmart way better.  The other ones were just too big for her face and would smoosh her nose.  This may just be a case by case thing though.





6.  Summer Infant Co-Sleeper

We ended up getting this co-sleeper and it has worked very well for us.  Our bed is near the ground so this co sleeper ends up being right about the height of the bed and it works great.  I also like that it's see-through so you can check on baby and it folds up.





7.  Receiving Blankets vs Swaddling Blankets

I know this is blasphemy in the baby world but I really do not like swaddling blankets.  My baby would wriggle right out of them and they would just come unraveled so easily.  I got a receiving blanket from the hospital and someone I know made me one also and I love love love those blankets. The ones I have are actually a little bit thicker than normal receiving blankets and baby loves them because they're warm but not too warm and I love them because as soon as baby is wrapped up in one she goes right to sleep.



8.   Happy Endings and Ecobaby Cloth Diapers

I am trying the cloth diapering thing and I bought used so I have a lot of different brands.  After much research and then buying some and loving them, I definitely recommend these two brands of diapers the most.  They are pretty similar.  I like them because they are sturdy, cute, and they have the double gussets so nothing gets through there.  I've never had a blowout in one of these diapers!






Dislikes

1.  Phillips Avent 3-in-1 Electric Steam Sterilizer

I was really excited about this purchase because I don't have a dishwasher and I thought it would nice to have super clean bottles and blah blah blah, but my excitement was short lived because the bottom of this mechanism that is metal starts to rust after like a week.  You can clean it with vinegar and water but you have to do that every week and I found it ridiculous so I ended up getting rid of it.   Now I just wash my bottles by hand.





2.    Baby Delight Co-Sleeper

I did like that this product folds up so you can carry it if you go out of town.  But when we put baby in this at night, every little move on the bed would make her roll over to the sides so we ended up getting rid of it.  We now have a co-sleeper that folds out on the ground.